Pet Ashes

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Pet portraits make the most memorable gifts.
We understand how SPECIAL a pet can be…that’s why
Ashes of Pet
is happy to announce that you can now celebrate the life of your pet(s) with a most-unique, affordable painting. We will take your favorite photo and convert it into your very own Memories from Ashes Portrait. Our paintings allow you to enjoy the beauty of your pet(s) while they are still with you.

All of God’s creatures deserve the best so we also offer pet themed cremation Paintings!  If you have recently lost a beloved pet, please accept our condolences.  We hope you find what you are looking for.  Please let us know if we can be of any assistance.

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Elmo the family dog, a 14 year old Shih-Tzu, died yesterday. I’m devastated (I can barely type this without crying); even though he was OLD and we knew this was coming for years, it was still a shock to return home after work and find his poor little body lying cold and stiff on the floor. I have been put in charge of deciding whether we want his ashes back after cremation. Yes, I realize this should be a family decision but everyone has (unfairly) turned to me to decide.

The main argument against getting the ashes is horribly pragmatic – we wouldn’t know what to DO with them. Elmo has always been an indoor dog: as puppy, he was raised in a Hong Kong apartment and has stayed even more indoors as he aged these last few years. Consequently, there’s nowhere I can think of to scatter his ashes – no favourite outdoor spot, not even in our own yard. If we kept his ashes in an urn, what do we do with them years down the road? Do I (and it will be me, since I’m making this decision), 50 years down the road, want to be that weird old lady shlepping her puppy ashes from place to place, only to eventually have them thrown out by someone else after I’m gone?

On the other hand, the thought of his remains being chucked out en masse to the municipal garbage dump is almost too horrible to contemplate right now.

Has anyone decided NOT to keep ashes and later regretted the decision? Or vice-versa? Also, ideas to memorialize a beloved pet are welcome.

Get the ashes now. You don’t have to decide what to do with them right away. Later on, when you’re thinking clearly, a fabulously perfect idea for what to do with them will present itself. Or not. But at least you’ll be in a better frame of my mind to make a decision.

In case you aren’t aware of the procedure: If you decide to get the ashes returned, you may also have to decide right then if you want a fancy urn (more expensive) or a basic container. You can ask your vet to keep the ashes at their facility until you are ready to pick them up. Not all vets do this – sometimes the ashes are mailed directly to you. Ask, if it matters to you. I’ve heard of people leaving ashes at a vet for months or longer until they felt ready to deal with them.

It will take several weeks for the ashes to come back, give or take. You end up with a cardboard box, approximately 6 inches or so on a side. Inside the box is the container with the ashes. You don’t have to open it up to look inside if you don’t want to you.
When our ferret Grainne died several years ago, I was in the process of moving from Texas to New Jersey (it happened a week before the move date; my husband had already moved and was about to fly back for the final packing and driving cross country). We didn’t want to bury her remains at the house we were selling. Our vet, whom we’d known for a long time, kindly offered to bury her remains on his ranch. If you get the ashes, and I would, maybe you have a friend who could do you a similar favor now or later?

I am so sorry for your loss. :( It is never easy to lose a member of your family. It’s such a shock to the system when you’re suddenly in a world that doesn’t have them in it. My 13-year-old puppy, too, is not long for this world, so I will be saving this thread for that time. This will be my first time dealing with it in adulthood, but I do have a little story from my childhood.

When my first dog, a border collie, died at 14 years of age, I was about 12. We had to put her down, and my mom let me and my brother be there when it happened. (Which, for the record, I am so grateful for.) At some point in the process my mom was asked what to do with the ashes, and she decided to not keep them. I think she didn’t feel the sentimental attachment to them and it would have been more expensive to do it.

I was sad about that, because I am very sentimental and tend to hold onto things, but I don’t think I really spoke up much at the time. Not sure why; maybe I didn’t want to argue with her while we were all so sad, or maybe I did speak up but couldn’t change her mind. Anyway, years later it somehow came up in conversation and I mentioned how I had been sad (and still was) that we didn’t do something with her ashes. She was surprised and said she hadn’t realized how important it was to me. If she’d known, she’d have probably done it differently. And she said that she sort of now wished that she had kept them, too.

I don’t have any pent up resentment or profound sadness as a result of not keeping her ashes, and I don’t think it prevented me from going through a normal grieving process. But I think my mom and I both wish we had kept them or spread them in the yard just for the sake of still feeling like part of her was still with us. As it is, we have our memories and photos, which hold plenty of meaning. But I plan to keep the ashes in the future. I really like the plant-a-tree idea described above.

So I guess the point of me writing all of this, in addition to sharing my story with you, is to suggest erring on the side of caution. If you think you might want the ashes, then keep them for now. Don’t worry about what you’ll want a year from now, once you’ve finished grieving. Having them around might be a good impetus for a small memorial, even if it is just the family sitting around the living room sharing Elmo memories. You can always decide to get rid of them later, if you don’t feel the need for them anymore.